When you take a chance to step out in any way at all, it is inevitable – you will suffer rejection. Sitting with it and grieving the loss caused by it allows you to learn from it in order to move forward.
Quoted in Daring Greatly by Brene Brown:
- “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” — Theodore Roosevelt
Rejection is a part of life, about someone rejecting a situation that doesn’t work for them. We need not take rejection personally.
Quote by Marianne Williamson: “The only thing missing in any situation is that in which you are not giving.” Be what is missing; rejection is directed at what is missing, see if you can fill the hole to provide what is missing.
- John 15: 19 – If you belonged to the world, the world would love you as its own. However, I have chosen you out of the world, and you don’t belong to the world. This is why the world hates you.
- Luke 15:4 – Suppose someone among you had one hundred sheep and lost one of them. Wouldn’t he leave the other ninety-nine in the pasture and search for the lost one until he finds it?
- 1 Peter 2 – But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people who are God’s own possession.
Avoid letting the ego take rejection personally and lead to “I/me/mine” thinking.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz:
- Don’t Take Anything Personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Sit in the rejection a bit to acknowledge it and grieve it. Then see what you can learn from it.
Quotes by Ginger’s daughter:
- When I love myself, I can love others better.
- I realize the more I love myself, the less I need other people to love me.
Be a friend to yourself!
Practice: place your hand on your heart, look in mirror and say: I am loving, I am loveable, I am loved.