It is not uncommon for people to dislike change. We get comfortable and secure where we are at, and often, being forced out of that comfort by change can be quite upsetting and difficult. However, change is a constant in life, so we must learn to deal with it. In this podcast, you will be introduced to many practices for coping with and making the most of change. You may even end up learning how to embrace change and to see it as an exciting opportunity!
- Anchor change in God: Relying on your faith to anchor you in the middle of change. Talk through and do change with God.
- Stand at the threshold: Learn how to be comfortable with discomfort, with the liminal space, with the threshold. Spend time in this space of disequilibrium, knowing that you can’t go back but not jumping forward quite yet so that you have time to grieve and be transformed.
- Put the ego in the backseat: Let yourself be vulnerable during change, and embrace the self-discovery that comes from being out of your element and taking off your mask.
- Hold on tight with open hands: Recognize your lack of control, and don’t fight against the change. Accept it and yield. Go to God with open hands, saying, “Let me receive what I need,” instead of shaking a closed fist at God and telling God exactly what you need.
- Pray for change: Know that nothing is permanent and that Jesus can change your circumstances.
- Pray for perspective: Pray, “God help me to see this differently.”
- Pray the Serenity Prayer
- Positive change coaching: Notice or acknowledge that you are in the middle of change. Don’t run and hide from it. Name which part of the change concerns you or which part you fear. Figure out how to accept this change, and look for its benefits. Focus on these benefits more than on what you are losing.
- Ask yourself: What are 5 things about a change can make it palatable? What 5 goals can I set for myself during this change that could help me feel better about it?
- Worst Case and Best Case: Imagine the worst-case scenario. Go right into it. Imagine and describe it. Imagine the best-case scenario. What can you do in advance to keep the worst-case scenario from happening? What can you do in advance to cultivate the amazing adventures that might be ahead?
- Many people took risks to get to Jesus for healing because they had faith that he could change their circumstances:
- Mark 5:25-34 – Now there was a woman who had been suffering from hemorrhages for twelve years. She had endured much under many physicians, and had spent all that she had; and she was no better, but rather grew worse. She had heard about Jesus, and came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, for she said, “If I but touch his clothes, I will be made well.” Immediately her hemorrhage stopped; and she felt in her body that she was healed of her disease. Immediately aware that power had gone forth from him, Jesus turned about in the crowd and said, “Who touched my clothes?” And his disciples said to him, “You see the crowd pressing in on you; how can you say, ‘Who touched me?’” He looked all around to see who had done it. But the woman, knowing what had happened to her, came in fear and trembling, fell down before him, and told him the whole truth. He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace, and be healed of your disease.”
- John 12:24 – Very truly, I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains just a single grain; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.
- Matthew 9:17 – Neither is new wine put into old wineskins; otherwise, the skins burst, and the wine is spilled, and the skins are destroyed; but new wine is put into fresh wineskins, and so both are preserved.
- Matthew 6:25-34 – Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life? And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ For it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today.
- Richard Rohr – Falling Upward (book) – “The human ego prefers anything, just about anything, to falling, or changing, or dying. The ego is that part of you that loves the status quo—even when it’s not working. It attaches to past and present and fears the future.”
- Richard Rohr – Everything Belongs (book) – “Our journeys around and through our realities or “circumferences” lead us to the core reality, where we meet both our truest self and truest God.”
- Richard Rohr blog about liminal space – https://cac.org/liminal-space-2016-07-07/
- John Maxwell – “Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”
- The Serenity Prayer link: https://www.celebraterecovery.com/resources/cr-tools/serenityprayer